takes a village

Treehouse Summer

2017-05-18T14:45:08+00:00 July 14th, 2015|daily life, takes a village|

I love the cool, foggy Bay Area weather, but I lose track of the seasons. Rain means fall or winter, but chilly and overcast could be any day of the year. I wilt in real heat, but sometimes I miss signs of summer. So I was thrilled when my friend Mark insisted we get going [...]

One Small Success

2014-10-14T00:06:47+00:00 October 13th, 2014|daily life, takes a village|

A few weekends ago Jay gave me the wonderful gift of wrangling the kids while I did a daylong yoga retreat. It was unbelievably nice to have 8 hours at Green Gulch Zen Center in Marin, doing yoga and walking in nature. Besides being forced to exercise, which is awesome by itself, the yoga teachers I'm drawn [...]

The Gold Trophy

2017-05-18T14:46:04+00:00 June 9th, 2014|daily life, takes a village|

The whole "micro" softball season was focused on the basics: which base to run to if you hit the ball (first), how to hit the ball (swing), how to work on a team (hint: not everybody should run for the ball at the same time). Nobody kept score, and at the end of the game each [...]

Parenting in an Individualistic Culture

2017-05-18T14:46:24+00:00 January 20th, 2014|parenting, takes a village|

Before kids, I pined so much for kid time. The longing was profound. I'm so happy to have kids now, overjoyed! But I'm surprised how lonely parenting can be. It's like we've stepped through this door into a different world, and I haven't completely adjusted; I don't know enough people in my new land. When [...]

Foster Grandparents on the Scene!

2017-05-18T14:48:42+00:00 August 4th, 2012|daily life, takes a village|

My dad and stepmom are in town to meet the kids. It's been wonderful to connect them to my new family. So primal! It feels strange that they're "only now" meeting the kids, which shows how huge the last three months have been in my life—years worth of changes in a blink. No wonder I [...]

Adult Conversation!

2017-05-18T14:48:46+00:00 July 20th, 2012|daily life, takes a village|

I stole away to bookgroup this week, leaving Jay and a friend watching the kids. What a pleasure to be with grownups, following the customs and traditions that until a few months ago were my primary ways of communicating and being with others. So what if we mostly talked about our kids. The comfort of [...]

Week One

2017-05-18T14:49:14+00:00 May 13th, 2012|daily life, takes a village|

A full week of fulltime foster parenting. Survived! Enjoyed! Endured! I feel muddle-headed, daunted, overwhelmingly thankful. Jay says it sunk in when they asked him to sign the "parent" line for a school form, and he thought "What? Sign as what?" For me it was making my way up the uneven stone stairs with a [...]

It Will Take A Village

2017-05-18T14:49:53+00:00 January 20th, 2012|parenting, takes a village|

I've been thinking about all the help we're going to need when these kids land, and how bad I am at asking for help. What an opportunity this will be! I don't usually complain about my childhood; I have very fond memories of growing up. There are just a few things I'd change: wish I [...]