Refrigerator Truth

2018-10-11T22:53:14+00:00 October 11th, 2018|daily life|

In the 90s, I had a friend who had invented refrigerator magnets. Or I guess he popularized word magnets for the fridge. It was cool knowing an inventor, but I probably would have had a set anyway. Everyone did.  Also sometime in the 90s I had a boyfriend, a sparkle-eyed, intense man who was, it [...]

Broken Baseball Dreams

2018-08-07T10:05:24+00:00 August 7th, 2018|daily life|

Of the whole summer, this was the week I was most worried about, though for the wrong reasons. Jaden was signed up for a baseball camp we won at the school auction last year; he saw the photo of the boys in crisp white uniforms and he wanted it. Bad. Never mind that it's a [...]

Night Walk

2018-08-03T16:15:28+00:00 August 3rd, 2018|holidays and celebrations|

We returned from London in time to celebrate Jaden's 8th birthday at home. He had insisted on this, had threatened not to go with us if we didn't agree to be here, and we were. But it's been over 20 years since I was in Europe, and I didn't think about jet lag.  We arrived back [...]

Coming Back

2018-07-02T09:13:10+00:00 June 28th, 2018|daily life|

Returning to civilization from a week at family camp is a delicate operation. I find myself out of sorts, wondering why I can't finish 3 books a week, sit by the pool, and let the college kids entertain my children and feed us all. And does it reflect well or poorly on my parenting that [...]

Shaun and Spike are… Changing

2018-05-26T09:12:50+00:00 May 26th, 2018|parenting|

One of the joys and tragedies of siblings is how much the little one picks up. When my daughter was in first grade, I was welcome in the classroom, on field trips, anywhere. She was glad to see me until at least fourth grade, when she started setting limits of how much (or if) I [...]

Seeking Happiness

2018-05-19T08:38:55+00:00 May 19th, 2018|daily life|

I'm sure it will jinx everything to even write this down. There's a good chance that my years-long quest will be jeopardized by even thinking this thought. But I believe that Comcast may have, might have, could have... fixed my internet connection. Deep breath. The little white light on the modem is still solid. So [...]

Big Cheese

2018-04-29T01:07:21+00:00 April 29th, 2018|daily life|

I have to say, the stakes are somewhat small. The PTA of our fantastic and lovely elementary school raises $150,000 to $170,000 a year, to support the teachers and kids. Fantastic for our community, and nothing to sneeze at. But hardly Forbes Magazine territory. Someone who managed to steal it all could have a very [...]

They Blew Up Japan

2018-04-15T22:03:16+00:00 April 15th, 2018|parenting|

Sometimes the raw honesty and directness of childhood takes my breath away. When I think about death, there is a brooding quality, a familiar one yet muted. Adults learn to push it to the back of the shelf. And there's a bittersweetness; I think fondly about those I've lost and miss. None of this is [...]

His Own League

2018-03-17T11:19:39+00:00 March 17th, 2018|adoption|

Recently I got a text message from another dad at school. "My son's interested in joining/playing baseball with yours, can you tell me more about your league?" he asked. "Also is there a get-together at Fenton's Ice Cream for the team tomorrow afternoon? We'll try to make it." In one way this was not a [...]

Anniversary, with Tween

2018-02-21T16:26:43+00:00 February 21st, 2018|adoption, parenting|

It was the 9th anniversary of the day we met, though not our wedding anniversary, which will be 5 years in August. My head spins at how quickly it goes. We dragged the kids to a fantastic Berkeley Cajun place we hadn't taken them before. Fingers were crossed. A few years ago we were sure [...]

An Hour of My Own

2018-02-12T09:03:01+00:00 February 11th, 2018|adoption|

It's Girl Scout cookie season, and you've got to hit it early and hit it hard. We had our booth set up on Solano Avenue. It was normally chilly for February, but somewhat of a shock after a hot, gorgeous week that was anything but normal. It's fun to see the girls sell in a [...]

Fever and Delirium

2018-01-23T13:50:46+00:00 January 23rd, 2018|parenting|

It's tiresome, how unprepared I am for the things that inevitably happen. Jaden was running a fever of 102, 104, even briefly 105 over the weekend, and was snuggling with me, and coughing in my face, during the night. The advice nurse said we were doing the right things: fluids, rest, ibuprofen or acetaminophen. Compared [...]

Scream

2018-01-17T14:37:37+00:00 January 17th, 2018|adoption, parenting|

It comes in waves. When you watch the ripples on a lake, and two big sets of waves come together and it's all foamy and turbulent? That's the state we reached this morning. The screaming was epic. New year, post vacation, then Monday was a holiday. It sounds nice, but getting out of the routine [...]

My Month Off Facebook

2017-12-29T15:37:59+00:00 December 29th, 2017|daily life|

It was an impulse, unplanned, but in retrospect inevitable. This had been coming. In early December I deleted Facebook off my phone. There were a lot of reasons. For one, it was taking too much time. I enjoy keeping up with friends and their kids, pets, hobbies and vacations. But I was getting more (and more distracting) [...]

The Breaking Point

2017-11-25T20:15:07+00:00 November 25th, 2017|parenting|

The school secretary sounded serious. "Your daughter is ok, but I think she needs to be seen by a doctor," she told me. She'd slipped in the mud playing football and her arm hurt. In the office, the principal and I asked her to wiggle her fingers, and how much it hurt. It didn't seem [...]