daily life

Treehouse Summer

2017-05-18T14:45:08+00:00 July 14th, 2015|daily life, takes a village|

I love the cool, foggy Bay Area weather, but I lose track of the seasons. Rain means fall or winter, but chilly and overcast could be any day of the year. I wilt in real heat, but sometimes I miss signs of summer. So I was thrilled when my friend Mark insisted we get going [...]

Camp Dreams

2017-05-18T14:45:13+00:00 June 22nd, 2015|daily life, holidays and celebrations|

One: Getting Here It’s hard to remember, with the weeks of excitement and anticipation leading up to family camp, that what I should be reminding the kids, at least the older ones, is that the first day of camp can be tough.  Not for Jaden. Our 4-year-old is at home everywhere we’ve ever taken him. [...]

Please, Anybody But Me!

2017-05-18T14:45:19+00:00 June 13th, 2015|daily life, parenting|

I was startled today to realize that I'd been comforting my daughter for a few minutes without really taking in, or taking seriously, that the tragedy at hand was that she had to ride with me to swimming, not her beloved Papa. ("Not Daddy, noooo! I always have to go with Daddy! Why do I never ever [...]

Being a Dad Means Having More to Lose

2017-05-18T14:45:24+00:00 February 21st, 2015|daily life|

The above is not a photo of tragedy, neither kid got hurt. But I can't help looking at my son flying through the air and imagine crash landings and disaster. There's been a lot this week reminding me how fragile and precious life is. Oliver Sacks' essay on learning he had terminal cancer was like a kick [...]

My Miranda July Superbowl

2017-05-18T14:45:28+00:00 February 1st, 2015|daily life, gay dads, holidays and celebrations|

The best part about reading fiction, maybe any book, is the way a wonderful writer stays in your head. For a few days after finishing a book, it feels like I have some special goggles on, still half in the world of the novel. This weekend it was Miranda July's The First Bad Man, and let me [...]

Thank You for the Yucky Food

2017-05-18T14:45:35+00:00 January 4th, 2015|daily life, parenting|

I know it's developmental. Kids are wired to be self-centered, and part of our job is to help them understand there are other people in the world. Sometimes they impress me, like when Jaden insists on bringing his big sister a treat if he's getting one. Haircut lolipop? He's got an absolute code of honor [...]

Growing Up Fast, Part 16

2014-12-23T12:49:40+00:00 December 23rd, 2014|daily life, holidays and celebrations|

My babies are growing up sooooo quickly. I took Jaden in for his haircut and AJ said "he's shooting up so fast, next to go are those chipmunk cheeks. Broke my heart when my baby lost his." Four-and-a-half and the baby face goes? Please say it isn't true. Shayla is on the last kid's shoe size, and [...]

Drawing the Future

2017-05-18T14:45:37+00:00 December 12th, 2014|daily life, parenting|

I've been thinking about a sketch I did years ago. In another life, really. Surrounded by sick and fearful friends, I immersed myself in what you might call the California New Age curriculum. We talked about our feelings, drew them, danced them. A skeptic would have a lot to make fun of. A believer could be changed forever. [...]

The Family Bed

2017-05-18T14:45:39+00:00 November 26th, 2014|daily life, parenting|

We all know Jay and I didn't turn out to be French Parents a la Pamela Druckerman. The vision sounded so nice: after eating a very adult dinner, the little ones loving the kale and trying everything, the kids trump off to their rooms, ready for bed. After books and kisses, no drama sleep while the parents have [...]

Blue, and Red: I Am What I Drive

2017-05-18T14:45:42+00:00 November 5th, 2014|daily life|

The day after the election and I’m feeling blue. As a kid we learned one did not discuss money or politics, period. So let me say something about cars. When I met my husband Jay, he drove a BMW. More than one friend asked, “Didn’t you say you’d never go out with someone who drives a [...]

Sign In Here

2014-10-28T16:12:44+00:00 October 28th, 2014|daily life|

The kids were off to school, crazed about Halloween (Jaden: "Is it today?" Me: "No." Jaden: "Is it the weekend?" Me: "No, it's Monday.") In the couple minutes before my first work call I was trying to find the floor of their rooms, beneath stuffies, toys, and discarded clothes. Several feet of papers, games and [...]

Fall, Falls, Falling

2017-05-18T14:45:44+00:00 October 20th, 2014|daily life|

Halloween and Daylight Savings time are sneaking up on us. Disney on Ice featured Cars, the Little Mermaid, and Toy Story. Actual cars, or actual model cars, zooming around the ice and acting out their parts from the movie. If that's not dislocating enough, I'm reading The Bone Clocks by David Mitchell, and sneak-watching Orange [...]

One Small Success

2014-10-14T00:06:47+00:00 October 13th, 2014|daily life, takes a village|

A few weekends ago Jay gave me the wonderful gift of wrangling the kids while I did a daylong yoga retreat. It was unbelievably nice to have 8 hours at Green Gulch Zen Center in Marin, doing yoga and walking in nature. Besides being forced to exercise, which is awesome by itself, the yoga teachers I'm drawn [...]

Time, Again

2017-05-18T14:45:48+00:00 September 15th, 2014|daily life|

I knew this would happen eventually, just not so soon. It was so appropriate it happened the night I went to see Boyhood, the lovely, lyrical film by Richard Linklater. It's a meditation on time and its passing, filmed over 12 years, following a boy from young childhood to college. I'd say it's impossible to watch this movie and [...]