While I Was Waiting

While I Was Waiting

As possible placements are floated, and either are or seem more likely, I find myself kicking into high gear. But with nothing to do. Parents expecting babies can put together the crib or pick out stuff, but there’s little useful concrete action we can take until we know more.

Whenever I can, I follow the motto “Don’t just do something, stand there.” It’s usually the wise move. At other times I’ve found myself not-so-wise. Recent frenzied activities have included:

  • Labeling trash, recycling, and compost bins with reflective numbers of our address. No more garbage can mixups, whew!
  • Putting up a new lamp in the kids’ room. Ikea!
  • Buying extra office supplies.
  • Loading up the shopping cart with kid plates, cups, and other paraphernalia, only to return it to the shelf when doubt about whether he/she/they will prefer astronauts, princesses, or reptiles. I’ve been near tears in the kids and plastic serving-ware isle a few times in the last month, and may be on some sort of Target “watch list.”

While occasionally I’ve cleaned my office, organized a kitchen drawer, or dived into work projects, I have to say the sort of panicky, quick-buy-something-pink-and-frilly-in-case-it’s-a-girl energy really doesn’t lend itself to anything productive. Yoga’s the only thing that helps, and there’s a limit to how many classes I can stand in a week!

I guess the good news is that when the occasion finally arises, I know I’ve got a well of nervous energy I can call on, and we’ll be able to mobilize quickly. Not to reinforce stereotypes, but there are times a crazed queen can get it done like nobody’s business!

Also, I feel there’s something very, very close. We’ve seen some profiles, and been led to think there might be some movement. Kinda. Soon. Maybe? Could be quite fast, or…

I guess nothing’s certain until they’re through school and off to college, but I’ll let people know before then. Stay tuned!

2012-01-22T17:17:19+00:00 January 22nd, 2012|waiting and wanting kids|3 Comments


  1. Kate January 22, 2012 at 8:09 pm - Reply

    I don’t know what age or how many kids are being floated as a match, but if I could go back and prepare anything before our girl came home, it would be to cook. And cook. And cook. Preparing and freezing as many meals as possible would have meant far less time fiddling with grocery shopping, cooking…and frankly eating crap instead of real food when we just wanted to be with her. Granted she was a newborn, so shopping and cooking seemed impossible anyway, but I think even with older kids, having healthy meals frozen frees up loads of time for working on bonding, attachment, trips to various professionals if necessary, and of course, play and fun together.
    Oh, and you probably hear this all the time, but it is so true: Once your kids come home, you’ll not get to a movie theatre together in forever (forget sex as well – kids are exhausting and ever-present!) So go see some good movies, eat at some fantastic grown-up restaurants, have loads of sex, and bank some together time for the long periods of kid-centred everything to come.

  2. David January 23, 2012 at 9:06 am - Reply

    These are great, doable ideas. I think we’ve been doing the movies and dinners out just by instinct, but love the “stockpiling good food” thought too. Thanks Kate!

  3. Pam January 23, 2012 at 6:04 pm - Reply


    Highly recommend “Operating Instructions” by (Saint) Anne Lamott, if you haven’t already read all of her.

    PS You’re being absolutely normal. 🙂


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