Happy Mother’s Day

Happy Mother’s Day

Did you ever set out with clear sights and end up doing exactly the wrong thing? I’ve swerved with my 6-year-old, between working to help her face the tragedy of her…

The Art of Not Doing

The Art of Not Doing

It’s only the first day of the kids two week vacation, and maybe it’s time to admit I’m not as skilled as I’d like to be at relaxing. In my…

Confused and Not Sure

Confused and Not Sure

Is there anything weirder than everything going right? It’s disorienting. I’m a little bit lost. Sure, I’ve got to wrestle health insurance for the kids. Adoption means they transfer departments,…

More and More Married

More and More Married

I’ve been shocked by how changed I feel. I’m living with the same guy and kids, in the same place, same work, same dog, same cat. But a wedding, two…

“I Need to Be Connected to You”

“I Need to Be Connected to You”

It’s incredible how clueless, and then how wise, our kids are. Knowing our daughter for 16 months, some things are so transparent. After a disruptive event, like the social worker…

On the Dotted Line

On the Dotted Line

I knew our social workers were coming this morning. We were even dressed when they arrived, which isn’t always the case. I knew they were bringing paperwork, but I hadn’t…

Love, Marriage, Kids

Love, Marriage, Kids

I’ve been dumbstruck by the supreme court ruling that ended up legalizing gay marriage in California. I knew it was coming. I expected jubilation, but have had a more complicated…

Mother’s Day Blues

Mother’s Day Blues

For twenty plus years, Mother’s Day has been bittersweet for me. It’s lovely to remember Mom, but because she’s gone it’s also a lonely holiday. I help celebrate my wonderful…

The Great Leap Forward

The Great Leap Forward

Huge news, the hearing was today, and the judge terminated the mother’s parental rights and set adoption into our family as the “permanent plan” for the kids. Now the adoption…

Some Positive Points for Us

Some Positive Points for Us

We just switched our daughter from a “star/sticker” system to a “points/rewards” plan, and the difference is dramatic, in her and in me. I’ve decided it’s time to award myself…