Puppy Medicine

2017-05-18T14:44:15+00:00 September 19th, 2016|adoption, daily life|

It wasn't long after we started trying marijuana that we realized we wanted another dog. Even though the pot was being ingested by our elderly dog Finnegan, I'm sure more than one person hearing this news will think we're high on drugs ourselves, but no. (For the record, the canine cannabis is non psycho-active. You can read more here.) We'd [...]

My Dog’s Pot Club

2017-05-18T14:44:17+00:00 September 5th, 2016|daily life|

I’ve never been a big fan of marijuana. The couple times I tried it, decades ago, I had strong, unpleasant reactions. I’m told it’s exponentially stronger today, which sounds much worse. I have no particular feelings about its use, though stoner culture doesn’t appeal to my German Protestant work ethic. For relaxation (not that we [...]

Summer Storms and Switching Places

2016-08-06T21:56:29+00:00 August 6th, 2016|adoption, parenting|

I should know not to tempt fate. Maybe a year ago I started feeling cocky, like we'd gotten this parenting thing down. Nobody knows what they're doing, of course, but I felt we're going to survive it—the adults, the kids, our marriage. I felt that everyone will emerge, more or less, unscathed. And of course we [...]

Coming Out

2017-05-18T14:44:22+00:00 July 6th, 2016|parenting|

It was time to start telling people. Probably past time. There's a dull pounding in my ears. I take a breath, and steady myself. As nonchalantly as possible, I say "Yeah, Jaden's in kindergarten in the fall..." Pause. "...Again." It's strange how vividly every time I ever told someone I'm gay flashes before my eyes when I've [...]

My Bad

2016-05-17T14:14:19+00:00 May 17th, 2016|parenting|

One of the perks of writing — and I guess parenting — is that I get to be right so much of the time, or imagine that I am. School dropoff is time for the adults to share war stories, and these don't tend to paint our little dears in a great light. They're headed to class, unable to rebut [...]

Time Out

2016-05-15T22:38:32+00:00 May 15th, 2016|parenting|

I've stormed out of the house again. Standing by the garage, I see my neighbor up the street wrangling clippings into the green bin, and I think maybe I'll head up there. Make conversation. But I'm not sure. There's a wet dishtowl over my shoulder, and probably a fire in my eye. I might seem [...]

Four Years

2016-03-27T20:51:55+00:00 March 27th, 2016|adoption|

We just saw Laurie Anderson's lovely documentary Heart of a Dog, about losing her mother and her Rat Terrier Lola Bell, and obliquely about losing Lou Reed. It's really about memory and loss and the strange business of being alive. Anderson tells this amazing story about a long hospital stay when she was a kid, and while [...]

She Doesn’t Like Surprises

2017-05-18T14:44:25+00:00 February 29th, 2016|adoption|

You can know someone for a long time and still not get it. Last week I picked Shayla up from school, headed to an appointment. I'm sure we'd talked about it, the time, the plan, everything. But from the dark cloud on her face I could tell she was not expecting me. "Poppa is supposed to [...]

Two Books

2017-05-18T14:44:30+00:00 February 19th, 2016|daily life|

As a somewhat introverted person, my different roles sometimes feel like parallel lives. I'm a father, a son, a husband. A web producer, geek, proud member of the PTA. I'm a gay man, a political moderate (not easy!) and have my level 2 Reiki certification. But perhaps my most solitary, private role is reader. Absorbed in a book, I [...]

Death and Cookies

2017-05-18T14:44:34+00:00 February 5th, 2016|daily life|

The girl scout industrial complex landed this week and there was nowhere to hide. Of course it's my own fault. Last year Shayla got excited and we sold lots of cookies. When the Troop needed a Cookie Manager, it seemed harmless enough. Why not store a few cookies in the garage and help out? Fast forward: [...]

Getting My Walk

2017-05-18T14:44:39+00:00 January 18th, 2016|daily life|

The rains keep coming, and if it's not the full solution to our drought, it's a step in the right direction. Besides, I love the rain. Nothing like a few hours of quiet, reading the paper, enjoying the rain outside... Oh. Maybe I mean I loved the rain before kids (BK). I'm sure even BK I [...]

The Hard Work of Good Fun

2017-05-18T14:44:40+00:00 January 3rd, 2016|holidays and celebrations, parenting|

I laughed out loud to read my friend Whitney's caption under a delightful movie of her child sledding in snow. "This video is misleading," she wrote, "Today has not been all fun and games." While she's always enjoyable to read (and her blog 510 Families is an East Bay must for parents), my delight was also because I'd [...]

Happy 2016: The Cheesy Holiday Letter Goes Online

2017-05-18T14:44:42+00:00 December 4th, 2015|holidays and celebrations|

[Thanks to Nicolas Smith for the great pics, more at the bottom.] I was carrying the Halloween box up from the garage, and Jay seemed dazed. "It seems more like last month when we had this stuff out, not last year." The years cycle more and more quickly for me, like riding in that horrible/delightful gravity-defying cylinder where I was both [...]

You Can’t Go Home

2017-05-18T14:44:46+00:00 November 29th, 2015|daily life, holidays and celebrations|

We had a lovely Thanksgiving visit with Grandpa Ted and Grandma Mary, packed with adventure. We joined 40,000 in a downpour for the Austin "Turkey Trott," the one mile kid version, raising funds for local housing and food services. The kids dug for genuine Texas dinosaur bone casts buried beneath a giant sand pit at the Nature [...]

Goodbye Mr. Bubbles

2015-11-06T20:31:21+00:00 November 6th, 2015|daily life|

As Woody Allen put it, "If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans." Our little baby rat, Mr Bubbles, rescued from our psychopathic cat at maybe a week old, eyes still closed, improbably stayed alive, fed by hand with milk from a dropper. He was thriving. Don't fear, he's alive and well. But [...]